Who is a narcissist?
Narcissism, or altruism, is a term that has been around for centuries and can be seen in many people today at advanced levels.
Narcissism, which can be defined as falling in love with oneself and keeping oneself above everything else, is among the most talked about topics.
Because the number of narcissists is increasing, as people become more self-centered, their sensitivity decreases, and empathy loses its importance day by day. This situation naturally brings up details about narcissism.
People who always call themselves me, don't care about anyone or anything other than themselves, only think about their interests and try to live their lives with similar approaches can be called narcissists.
Sigmund Freud Narcissism
According to him, the libido of narcissists is collected in their egos, then they are directed to objects and return to their egos. Just like babies who cannot distinguish between the outside world and themselves, nothing else has reality or significance for narcissists. So it's all about them.
The origin of the word is based on Greek mythology. The term narcissism comes from the name Narcissus in Greek mythology. Freud was the first person to use the term narcissism, influenced by the mythological hero named Narcissus.
The story of Narcissus and Ekho is as follows: One day, the beautiful fairy named Ekho, who does not care about those in love and does not value their love, sees Narcissus while hunting. The fairy girl falls in love at first sight with this very handsome young hunter. However, Narcissus does not reciprocate Echo's love and leaves the young girl, who is in love, alone with her pain.
After that day, the fairy begins to melt slowly and eventually dies of sadness. The Olympian gods, angry at this situation, want to punish Narcissus. The handsome young man's punishment will be that he worships himself. One day, Narcissus, bending over the river to drink water, sees his reflection in the water and stands still.
This disorder, which is estimated to be seen in 1 percent of society, was first formulated in 1968.
The prominent symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder include:
- Do not hesitate to use any means (even if it is not ethical) to achieve the desired thing;
- Acting as if the world revolved around him;
- frequently humiliating and bullying others;
- Always trying to be “the most something”;
- Giving too much importance to appearance and dressing conspicuously;
- Believing that they are superior and can only associate with equally special people;
- Expecting preferential treatment;
- Difficulty coping with stress and adapting to change;
- Having hidden feelings of insecurity, shame, and humiliation
- Not hearing negative criticism or having tantrums in case of being disliked;
- Identifying people around them as “inferior” or “opposite to inference”;
- Being jealous of those who are in the center of attention or liked by people, thinking that others are also jealous of them;
- Seeing yourself in the giant mirror;
- Lack of interest in the lives of others, lack of empathy;
- Having unlimited fantasies of success, beauty, and power;
- To exaggerate even his small achievements as if he had saved the world;
- Being extremely hungry for being liked and appreciated.