She sought an answer to the question "How Do We Choose Our Lovers?": Who is Ayala Malach Pines?

(19 July 1945- 23 September 2012)

She was born in Kyrgyzstan in 1945. She studied psychology at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem. Specializing in clinical, social and industrial psychology, Pines received her doctorate and professorship at Boston University. For many years, she served as the head of the Business Administration department at the Faculty of Administrative Sciences at Ben-Gurion University in Israel.

Pines, who worked as a couples therapist in the USA and Israel in addition to her academic career, died in 2012.

Some of her books, which have been translated into many languages ​​such as French, German, Spanish, Hungarian, Polish, Greek, Turkish, Korean, Japanese, Chinese, and Hebrew, include Romantic Jealousy: The Shadow of Love, Career Burnout: Causes and Cures (with Elliot Aronson ), Career Choice in Management and Entrepreneurship: A Research Companion, Falling in Love - Why We Choose The Lovers We Choose, Couple Burnout. Causes and Cures.

Falling in love is one of the most emotionally exciting, most exhilarating, most complex, deepest, and most important experiences in most people's lives. It is therefore no wonder that throughout history, people have tried to unravel and control the mystery of love by resorting to love potions, spells, fortune, and prayers. Ayala Malach Pines, who has been working as a couples therapist for many years, provides a comprehensive analysis of this unique experience in Falling in Love. What are the codes of romantic love? What attracts couples to each other? Do obstacles spur love? Is love really blind? Do opposite characters complement each other? Where are women's and men's expectations of love similar and where do they differ? Do girls fall in love with their fathers and boys with their mothers? Is finding love possible for everyone? Are there ways to increase the chances of falling in love? What is the secret to long-term relationships? While searching for answers to such questions, the book traces the question of who we fall in love with, why, and how, in the light of examples selected from a wide range from mythology to literature, from painting to the world of cinema and entertainment. Pines, an expert in the fields of clinical, social, and industrial psychology, examines the roles that variables such as geographical proximity, arousal, timing, beauty, and similarity play in the process of people falling in love, in her book where she discusses falling in love with its conscious and unconscious dimensions. While the author combines her scientific findings, which are the result of extensive research, with observations from her clinical experience, she offers a unique resource with her fluent explanation for both those who are academically interested in the subject and those who want to understand and find love.